Bishop Carroll Code of Etiquet te

A gentleman…

        1.       …does not allow peer pressure to compromise his boundaries or his conscience

        2.       … allows the group or lady he accompanies to be the first priority over and above the event attended

        3.       …directs his thoughts, words and actions toward a person’s, especially a lady’s, honor and good reputation

        4.       …does not speak, write, text or blog sexually inappropriate words, actions or gestures

        5.       …maintains custody of the eyes and custody of the body at all times

        6.       …when inviting a woman on an outing, approaches her with confidence and graciously responds whether the
invitation is accepted or declined

        7.       …introduces himself to the parents of the people or lady whom he accompanies

        8.       …dresses to level of the occasion

        9.       …puts the amount of effort into planning a creative and enjoyable evening as the occasion warrants

        10.    ……appropriately complements a lady

        11.    …does not compromise a person’s, especially a lady’s, physical or emotional boundaries in any situation ( let the kids come up with
examples such as…at a dance, watching a movie, in a booth at a restaurant, in a car, etc…)

        12.    …puts special effort into actions of traditional etiquette (let the students come up with examples such as…opening doors,
pulling out chairs, letting ladies go first, etc…)

        13.    …learns to dance so as to increase his self-awareness, to learn to carry himself and to competently lead a lady

        14.    …avoids the appearance of cliques, whispers or snide comments.

        15.    …recognizes that foul language is like a foul stench…it is never pleasant

Formal Dance Dress Code:

This is a formal dress and modest dress is required for admission.  Young ladies should protect against exposed breast lines, short skirts, exposed torsos, exposed lower backs, overly tight or revealing clothes etc.  Young men should dress to complement the friends or lady he accompanies and should consider slacks and a tie (well ironed!).  You will be turned away at the door if you are dressed immodestly.   Any questions should be referred to Mrs. Harshberger or Mrs. Nielsen.  A FORMAL DANCE SHOULD NOT BE VIEWED AS AN OCCASION FOR LARGE EXPENSES.  We do not encourage expensive dresses, suits, dinners or car rentals.  More money does not make for more fun.   More creativity does not need to cost more money!  Also, no drink of any kind will be allowed into the dance and breathalyzers will be used at the door.

A lady…

        1.       …does not compromise her virtue or dignity for the sake of popularity

        2.       …does not accompany a person who treats her disrespectfully or irreverently

        3.       …expects the dignity due to her womanhood

        4.       …expects to be treated with traditional etiquette

        5.       …when being invited by a gentlemen on an outing, graciously accepts or declines on her own and not through her friends, text, blog, email etc.

        6.       …dresses with appropriate class and style not  seductively

        7.       …does not ignore the person she chose to accompany to an event

        8.       …neither allows nor responds to a person who speaks, writes, texts or blogs sexually inappropriate words, actions or gestures

        9.       …should avoid dangerous and compromising situations and has a plan to get out of those situations (eg.  Calling an older brother, parent, cousin, police…)

        10.    …appropriate alters her dress to protect her modesty

        11.    …dresses to attract her companions admiration not to force a reaction

        12.    …is aware that the way she dresses could attract attention from undesirable men or cause undesirable responses

        13.    …maintains appropriate posture when sitting, standing or bending

        14.    …appropriately complements a gentlemen

        15.    …dresses to focus a person’s attention on her face not on her form

        16.    …speaks of others in a way that respects their dignity and reputation

        17.    …avoids the appearance of cliques, whispers or snide comments.

        18.    …keeps appropriate physical and emotional boundaries at dances as well as in other “close” situations

        19.    …does not allow peer pressure to compromise her boundaries or her conscience

        20.    …recognizes that foul language is like a foul stench…it is never pleasant

        21.    …understands if she acts commonly she will be treated commonly

Informal Dance Dress Code

Modest dress is required for admission: No short skirts or short shorts, spaghetti straps, halter tops, white tanks, or shirts with inappropriate images or writing.  Also, no drink of any kind will be allowed into the dance and breathalyzers will be used at the door.